When relationships feel hard to stand in.
A calm, supportive space for couples to find their footing again.
Couples & Relationship
Counselling
Relationships can be a source of closeness, comfort and belonging, but they can also become places of tension, distance, misunderstanding or pain.
When communication begins to break down, conflict repeats itself, or something important in the relationship feels lost, it can be hard to find a way forward on your own.
Couples counselling offers a space to slow things down and look more carefully at what is happening between you.
It can help you understand the patterns you may be caught in, speak more openly about what feels difficult, and begin to think together about what may need attention, repair or change.
A space to pause
and reflect
My role is not to take sides or decide who is right. Instead, I aim to offer a balanced, thoughtful space in which both partners can feel heard, while also paying attention to the dynamic that may be keeping you stuck.
Together, we can begin to explore what sits beneath recurring arguments, emotional distance, misattunement or hurt.
Sometimes this means making sense of longstanding patterns. Sometimes it means finding a safer way to speak and listen. Sometimes it means thinking more clearly about where the relationship is, and what comes next.
Some couples come feeling disconnected. Others arrive in the midst of repeated conflict, uncertainty or pain.
Some are hoping to repair and reconnect, while others need support to reflect more honestly on where they are and whether something needs to change.
There is room for both.
It is not unusual for one partner to feel more ready than the other at first.
An initial session can simply be a place to begin the conversation.
Why couples come to counselling
Couples come to counselling for many different reasons. You may be struggling with repeated arguments, betrayal, or the pressures of life-stage changes like parenting.
For many, the struggle isn't constant conflict, but a quiet drifting apart - a feeling that you have become 'just friends' or roommates, where romance has been replaced by the routine of everyday life.
Whether intimacy feels strained or you simply feel you have lost something vital between you, this is a space to understand what has changed and how to move forward.
You do not need to be in crisis to come.
Some couples seek support early, before patterns become more entrenched. Others come when things already feel fragile, painful or uncertain.
You do not need to be certain about the future of the relationship in order to come.
Counselling can also be a place to think, reflect, and decide more carefully.
I welcome all relationship structures and identities, providing a non-judgmental space to explore the unique dynamics of your partnership.
How I work
I don't use a one-size-fits-all approach. Drawing from different therapeutic tools. I focus on how you connect - helping you understand the 'why' behind your reactions and learning to hold each other’s perspective in mind, even when things feel heated
I am interested in how attachment, emotional overwhelm, misunderstanding, past experience and the pressures of everyday life can shape the way couples find themselves relating.
I focus on how you connect with one another - helping you understand the 'why' behind your reactions so you can move from just 'reacting' to truly reflecting and understanding each other
In our work together, we may explore the patterns you return to again and again, what each of you finds hard to say or hear, how conflict escalates, or distance takes hold, and what helps each of you feel safer, more understood, and more able to stay in contact with one another.
For some couples, counselling supports repair and reconnection. For others, it offers a space to think honestly and carefully about separation, endings, or co-parenting.
My aim is to provide the clinical support and clarity you need to make more thoughtful, empowered choices for your future, whatever that future may look like.
My approach
Alongside my integrative counselling training, I have focused my professional development on the most respected clinical standards in the field.
My work is deeply informed by my training with Tavistock Relationships, The Bowlby Centre, and the Anna Freud Centre.
These institutions represent the 'gold standard' of therapeutic training in the UK, allowing me to bring a specialised level of insight to the complex dynamics of your relationship.
I also practice in accordance with the professional standards of COSRT (the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists). This means I am committed to the highest ethical benchmarks when working with the sensitive complexities of intimacy, identity, and sexual dynamics within a relationship.
My approach is also informed by attachment-based, relational and emotionally focused ideas, while remaining grounded in an integrative way of working.
This approach allows us to look beyond the immediate argument to the deeper emotional patterns, helping you build a relationship that feels more resilient and secure.
By learning to hold each other’s perspective in mind, especially when things feel heated, you can begin to understand the 'why' behind your patterns and find a more compassionate way of relating.
Practical details
Couples sessions are available online and in person in Norwich.
An initial session offers a gentle place to begin. It gives us space to meet, think about what is bringing you to counselling, and consider whether working together feels right for you both.
You do not need to arrive with everything worked out or know exactly what the outcome should be to begin.
You do not need to be certain about the future of the relationship in order to come. Counselling can also be a place to think, reflect, and decide more carefully.
Your Questions Answered
Still have questions?
Take a look at these FAQs, or feel free to get in touch.
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It is very common for one partner to feel more ready for counselling than the other. Often, reluctance comes from worry about being blamed, judged, or “ganged up on”.
My role is not to take sides or decide who is right. I aim to offer a balanced space where both of you can feel heard.
An initial session is simply a place to begin - a chance to see how I work, talk about what is happening, and consider whether it feels like the right support for you both. -
There is no fixed number of sessions, as every relationship has its own history, pace, and needs. Some couples find a way forward in a relatively short piece of work, while others choose to stay for longer to explore more deeply rooted patterns.
We will review the work as we go, so that it remains focused, thoughtful, and responsive to what feels most helpful.
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In most cases, yes. Couples counselling works best when both partners are present, so that the work stays open, balanced, and focused on what is happening between you.
Occasionally, I may suggest a brief individual meeting if it feels helpful to the work, but the main focus is the relationship, and most sessions take place together.
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Many couples come with exactly this fear. But if there is still some willingness to reflect, talk, or understand what has happened, there is often room for meaningful work.
Counselling is not only about trying to repair a relationship. It can also be a place to find clarity, think more carefully about what comes next, and navigate difficult decisions with greater honesty and care.
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The first session is a gentle but purposeful space. I will invite you both to talk about what has brought you to counselling, what feels difficult, and what you hope might change.
We may also begin to look at the history of your relationship and some of the patterns that have developed over time. Most importantly, it is a chance for you to get a feel for how I work and whether the space feels right for both of you. You do not need to arrive with everything worked out; we simply begin where you are.
Get in touch
If you are considering couples counselling, you are very welcome to get in touch.
Online and in-person couples counselling in Norwich.
A calm, thoughtful space to better understand your relationship, ease recurring tension, and consider what may need care, attention, or change.